Women need to grasp the ability to accept themselves. We live in a generation were physical appearance dominates everything. Now this may sound weird coming from someone who is into makeup and is a hairstylist, but my goal with both avenues is not to alter someones outward appearance, but to channel the beauty they have inside and let it match their external. Altering something coincides with change. I don’t want to change anything. Your beauty was already there, I just want to bring it out. I’ve seen so many women worry about what they physically look like that they forget that there is something inside of them worth more than anything they can buy, but this is where the problem may lie. Instead of channeling their inner beauty, they buy it over the counter, because its something they can physically control. Every women has the right to feel beautiful in their own way. As a women, yes I know about insecurities. It’s going to occur. But is that the only voice we listen to? What triggers insecurity is looking at someone else’s strengths and comparing it to our weaknesses as if that’s the only thing that defines us. I had seen a quote by the great actress Ruby Dee, ” The kind of beauty I want most is the hard to get kind that comes from within— strength, courage and dignity”. The hardest things to change are the things that are not tangible— reasons why our personalities become neglected. We have to think we are, believe we are and become it. Faith in ourselves and our self worth is far greater than any foundation, lipstick or eyeliner. Throwing on some makeup and a hair change is a just a cover up if our inward appearance is nonexistent. It’s like putting on perfume, but you have not bathed in about a week. Beauty comes in layers. The most important one we can not neglect. “Speak what you seek until you see what you’ve said”. You say your ugly, your going to believe your ugly and start to see this detrimental mind set and find artificial ways to cover it up. You say your worth gold, your going to feel it, believe it, see it and become it. What happens when you go home and you take your makeup off, tie your hair back and climb into your PJ’s? Do you still feel the same way about yourself as you did with the makeup and with your hair done? That first layer of beauty should not determine the thickest and most important layer, YOU. Your insides, what DEFINES YOU as a person. Let your definition of yourself shine brighter than any makeup counter or hair piece. “When I dare to be powerful - to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid” -Audre Lorde. Do not be afraid of yourself. Do not try and be perfect, do not see your flaws as downfall, but as the essence that gives your character a little flavor. Take off all your makeup, let down your hair, take all your clothes off, stand in front of the mirror pick out your rights, embrace your wrongs channel it all together and say THIS IS ME. “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive” -Audre Lorde. Give yourself a definition that can not be washed away. It will not happen over night. But with practice, faith, willingness to embrace WHO YOU ARE your beauty will become priceless.